125: Thoughts on Once a cheater from Ester Perel…

“So often we want to take this behavior and now reduce the entire person to just that.”

– Esther Perel


4 thoughts on “125: Thoughts on Once a cheater from Ester Perel…

  1. Midlife Dating Adventures – Eve Lawrence is an Australian author who runs a blog about 21st Century dating and mating. If you're someone in midlife with a zest for living and a curious, inquiring mind, you might enjoy it.
    Unleashing the Cougar says:

    Gotta love Esther Perel. She’s my spirit animal 🙂

    1. Wanders – #Infidelity is an outcome of an unskillful coping mechanism, everything else is a story someone imagines. Sharing thoughts and letters with those the men and women that #betrayed their Loves, lives, and selves too. What you do today matters most. All anyone can do is own the experience and practice doing better.
      A Reformed Cad says:

      You got Esther Perel?! Damn, all I got was a porcupine.

  2. I agree as well. While the pain is the same, there are different circumstances to infidelity, no one story is the same. I don’t believe in stereotyping…

  3. I agree with Esther, there are so many variables to consider in answering the question but I don’t believe once a cheater always a cheater. Like she explains, often it comes down to a poor choice and an inability to communicate dissatisfaction with the relationship rather than a pattern of behavior.