03: More of This and That

Contrary to what people claim, not everyone wants their loved ones to grow, they simply want them to change.

02: Own Your Shame

The cynical and bitter will call it image management.

Everyone else will call it adulting.

16: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – How Did I Get Here?

During Week 2 of Affair Recovery’s Hope for Healing’s seventeen week program the participants are asked to answer the question, “How did I get here?” and read it to the small group.

Below is my response.

01: The Unforced Errors – Thoughts on Affair Recovery

Thoughts on Affair Recovery’s “The 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse.”

66: This is the way

This is the way our love ends.

65: Living in Boxes (Part I)

I never questioned anything My Kitten said to me. As a result I ended up living in a box.

64: Reminder2Self – Vengeance

I was reminded again today that the consequences of my betrayal, secret keeping, and escalating series of lies casts a long shadow.

63: Pursuing Vulnerability

What matters is my commitment to change and not what others think of my intentions or motivations. I get up every morning and ask myself, “What is my truth to own today?”

15: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – My Rights

If you betrayed your Love(s), life, and self you still have right to hurt, and to be happy.

You have a right to a meaningful life but you have to chose it.

14: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Intent vs Impact

By deferring to my intentions I am essentially saying, “Yes I hear you hurt, but you shouldn’t hurt because that wasn’t my intention.” It carries the same intentions when someone say, “If you really cared you wouldn’t have cheated.”