opportunity – Love Letters to a Healing Heart

21: Briefly This and That

January 14, 2021January 14, 2021 Wanders

A bit more of this and that.

64: Reminder2Self – Vengeance

June 17, 2020May 31, 2021 Wanders

I was reminded again today that the consequences of my betrayal, secret keeping, and escalating series of lies casts a long shadow.

55: Try This Again Shall We?

December 1, 2019October 3, 2023 Wanders

It is time do something different. Failure is feedback, not prophesy. This is my rock now. I’ll go push it alone.

Thoughts on Conflict Transformation: Moving Closer (Part 5)

March 11, 2019October 3, 2023 Wanders

If I love you too often I’m conflict avoidant. An uncomfortable pattern with family relationships and romantic relationships.

There are reasons for that right?

Thoughts on Conflict Transformation: Winners and Losers (Part 4)

February 23, 2019October 3, 2023 Wanders

Long before I have a conflict with others I have conflict within myself. Who wins? Who loses?

I create my own reality and therefore I’ve created the conflict.

Thoughts on Conflict Transformation: Lawyer Mode (Part 3)

February 19, 2019October 3, 2023 Wanders

I see in the situation of infidelity, there will never be agreement about my intentions, motivations, or reasonableness but Buck is challenging us to discover what we can “create together.” To focus on the solution and not “fall into countless volleys of ‘you said…I said’ back and forth.” This unskillful approach “usually increases tension and decreases connection.”