Infidelity wasn’t even the real conflict in my marriage or my relationship with my X or in my life. As someone on the Facebook Esther Perel Discussion Group recently wrote, “The affair is not something you do, it’s a place you go.”Read More 08: This and That
“It’s important that we don’t stereotype—pain does not discriminate and people of all ages and backgrounds can be at risk for self-harm.”Read More 17: A Love Letter to Betrayers – Self Harm
I have no desire to be another’s jailer. I have no interest in being another’s prisoner.Read More 06: Promises and Prisons
On Friday I helped a friend cater an event at a local brewery. For reasons I am still sussing out when we arrived I had a full blown anxiety attack. The first serious and debilitating one I’ve had in a very long, long time. I couldn’t focus. I couldn’t remember what people ordered. I couldn’t […]Read More 05: Hidden Lessons
No matter how beautiful, the cut flower eventually wilts.Read More 04: Regrets
Contrary to what people claim, not everyone wants their loved ones to grow, they simply want them to change.Read More 03: More of This and That
The cynical and bitter will call it image management.
Everyone else will call it adulting.Read More 02: Own Your Shame
During Week 2 of Affair Recovery’s Hope for Healing’s seventeen week program the participants are asked to answer the question, “How did I get here?” and read it to the small group.
Below is my response.Read More 16: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – How Did I Get Here?
Thoughts on Affair Recovery’s “The 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse.”Read More 01: The Unforced Errors – Thoughts on Affair Recovery