Sucker Punched by Friday’s Guest Writer (02)
My name is Jen, and I am a betrayed spouse. If you are reading this, I am sorry that this has happened to you. However, maybe you will find something useful as you navigate this journey.
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6 Days: Moving On
C and I always said to each other: no matter the problem as long as we’re together we can overcome anything.
Of course, I said a lot of things. So did she.
Read More 6 Days: Moving On
This article is without a doubt, the most accurate, and thorough description of my thinking, actions, feelings, and perception of self I have found about the consequences, pain, and anxiety of being tied down by secrets and lies.
Read More 8 Days: No More Secrets and Lies
I’m still not sure I have a real answer why I betrayed C. I’m not sure I will ever be able to provide a personally or socially satisfactory answer to the question.
Read More Why
I’ve made a lot mistakes since discovery day, 126 days ago. I may not be doing it perfectly but I’ve been doing it.
Read More 22 Days
Guessing creates drama. Guessing will screw with people’s heads. Don’t make people guess what you want and need.
Read More A Review: Day 22 – Guessing
“You either die a hero or live long enough to become a villain.” – Harvey Dent
It’s ironic when I was lying and secret-keeping my infidelity was slowly killing me and when the truth came out it destroyed my life. Now that I’ve embraced being secret free and open people want me to shut up and keep secrets.
Read More Broken Knights and other fishy tales
Originally posted on Old Black Waters:
Read More This is the power of shame
My truth, my self, my heart, my humanity is unworthy of being shared with others. What you tell me you see, feel, think of me is not who I am. I did not say, I “feel” or “think” or “believe” what you tell me you see, feel or think…
Since this began I’ve made two commitments to myself. First of all, no more secrets. Secondly, I’d respect C’s personal space. This past weekend I broke the latter commitment and as a result created a secret.
Read More Reset
I’ve learned a lot about how people respond to betrayal and secret keeping.
Here is the bottom line: Love and stay. Love and leave. There is no wrong answer.
Regardless, love yourself.
Read More Reflections at 100 Days