We don't see the world as it is, we see it as we are― Anaïs Nin There isn't much to add at this point. I did what I did. Beatrix did what she did. Painter did what she did. Pretty monkeys are gonna fly. We each have our own reasons, stories, and imaginings about the others'... Continue Reading →
If I love you too often I'm conflict avoidant. An uncomfortable pattern with family relationships and romantic relationships.
There are reasons for that right?
Long before I have a conflict with others I have conflict within myself. Who wins? Who loses?
I create my own reality and therefore I've created the conflict.
I see in the situation of infidelity, there will never be agreement about my intentions, motivations, or reasonableness but Buck is challenging us to discover what we can "create together." To focus on the solution and not "fall into countless volleys of 'you said...I said' back and forth." This unskillful approach "usually increases tension and decreases connection."