Targets are stuck between a rock and a hard place, right where the Narcissist wants them to be, damned if they defend themselves and damned if they don’t BUT basically isolated and defenseless.
After Narcissistic Abuse
Read More 128.03: Mostly Last Thoughts on Interlopers and Rumormongers
127: Monkeys in the Middle
I’ve gone to lengths not to put people in the middle of my situation. I don’t want anyone else to carry my water.
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The pain will never go away. I will only find perspective for the pain. It is a part of me now. To hate the pain is to hate myself; to love myself is to love my pain.
Read More 126: Grrr…
125: Once a cheater…
“So often we want to take this behavior and now reduce the entire person to just that.” – Esther Perel
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123: The Onus of Healing by A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction
I need – no I WANT, someone that will work through the hard and Ugly things and not run away because they are scared or angry or shallow.
Read More 123: The Onus of Healing by A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction
121: Trickle Truth HELL by Walking the Journey
The truth will not set you free. What you do with the truth will.
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118: Thoughts on Forgiveness and Clemency
I realize, like so much, I have been approaching this wrong: I’ve been seeking forgiveness from C, that is selfish. Is it any wonder C is still pissed?
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113: All that we are not
You cannot be vulnerable and safe. Vulnerability is (risk + uncertainty + emotional openness). By definition, safety is to be free of risk and uncertainty. They just cannot exist in the same spiritual space.
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101.5: Unringing the Bell (5 of 5) – Epilogue
As my life with C fades to a distant and ringing echo I will move forward with intention. The lessons remain.
I’m excited about the possibilities.
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101.4: Unringing the Bell (4 of 5) – Some House Cleaning
I’ve learned everyone has their own Uglies. Hurt people hurt people and you never really know how people will respond to hurt until they are hurt.
Some run, others fight.
Read More 101.4: Unringing the Bell (Part 4 of 5)