Tag: acceptance
44: Sunflowers
How we got here doesn’t have to define where we go. Living that truth is all that is required to break the patterns.
Read More19: A Love Letter to Betrayers – More on Anger
Here is the reality, dig down a bit, and beneath all Painter’s cuntishness is pain. I know it isn’t personal, except where I make it so.
Read More36: A Bit of This and That
Just as “…but I love you” isn’t a get out of jail free card following betrayal, “…but you cheated” isn’t either. In both cases it is a deflection from the things that matter.
Read MoreThoughts on Conflict Transformation: Moving Closer (Part 5)
If I love you too often I’m conflict avoidant. An uncomfortable pattern with family relationships and romantic relationships.
There are reasons for that right?
Read MoreThoughts on Conflict Transformation: Winners and Losers (Part 4)
Long before I have a conflict with others I have conflict within myself. Who wins? Who loses?
I create my own reality and therefore I’ve created the conflict.
Read MoreThoughts on 36: Cleaning Out the Wound by CadConfessional
“Change happens one funeral at a time.” At the time we were talking politics. However, in the years since I heard her say that I’ve come to appreciate this truth.
Read MoreThoughts on Conflict Transformation: Lawyer Mode (Part 3)
I see in the situation of infidelity, there will never be agreement about my intentions, motivations, or reasonableness but Buck is challenging us to discover what we can “create together.” To focus on the solution and not “fall into countless volleys of ‘you said…I said’ back and forth.” This unskillful approach “usually increases tension and decreases connection.”
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