There was little room to learn how to express feelings, needs, and wants in a way that is vulnerable when it is met with derision, contempt, competing interests, and sarcasm. So I don’t think I was afraid of vulnerability as much as having a definition that equated it with weakness resulting in abuse.
149: Thoughts on They Cheat Because Their Souls Were Starving (Oh Brother) by SpaghettiSam
SpaghettiSam asks, “What has changed in this person so that the next time a crisis occurs or they aren’t feeling loved and special they don’t opt to go fuck another person?”
142: This is where I am
Do you know where you want to be in 10 years? I do.
125: Thoughts on Once a cheater from Ester Perel…
125: Once a cheater…
“So often we want to take this behavior and now reduce the entire person to just that.” – Esther Perel
113: Thoughts on All that we are not by Mark Nepo
113: All that we are not
You cannot be vulnerable and safe. Vulnerability is (risk + uncertainty + emotional openness). By definition, safety is to be free of risk and uncertainty. They just cannot exist in the same spiritual space.