When I spend resources trying to avoid the painful moment I am imagining, I will never know how to respond to the actual experience. Everything becomes a story about a fix to a broken fix to another useless hole. These responses to my discomfort only create a new narrative of pain for myself and others. I avoid living in an impermanent moment out of fear.
Too often, stories in my life have been real because I needed them to be true, not because they are true.
On Friday I helped a friend cater an event at a local brewery. For reasons I am still sussing out when we arrived I had a full blown anxiety attack. The first serious and debilitating one I've had in a very long, long time. I couldn't focus. I couldn't remember what people ordered. I couldn't... Continue Reading →
Sure there are monsters, but in truth, most of what we are calling monster behavior is simply someone doing something stupid for stupid and innocent reasons. It's just poor judgment, not pathological. There are actually very few monsters.