Here are a few of the lessons learned since that dark, unhappy, and personally blackest of Black Fridays two years ago.Read More 54: Lessons from a Black Friday
Lisa Arends asks “After being cheated on, it’s natural to question if the entire relationship was a lie. Is it possible for people to cheat on someone they love?”
Of course you can.Read More Thoughts on Lisa Arends Video: Can People Cheat on Someone They Love?
We are what we embrace. If we embrace the problem than we are the problem. If we embrace the solution we are the solution. If I embrace shame do I not become my shame?Read More Thoughts on Pema Chödrön’s Non-Aggression and the 4 Maras
Pain isn’t the enemy. Suicide isn’t the answer.Read More 06: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Suicide
A bit of this thing and that.
People do what they know how to do until the emotional cost of change is less than the emotional cost of protecting the status quo. We all carry a load that was cast there through the fire of experience.Read More 42: This Thing and That One
Moving forward, “Are my choices and actions consistent with what I value or am I doing things simply because I are afraid of what will happen if I don’t?”
I need to know to move forward.Read More 04: A Love Letter to the Betrayer – The Three Questions
I know you hurt Pain is not wrong…The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain. Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha Good day my Friend. Depending where you are, it may not feel like a good […]Read More 03: A Love Letter to the Betrayer – I Know You Hurt
Don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying there aren’t “narcissists in the world, just not as many as you would guess from the number diagnosed as narcissists by disappointed partners.”Read More Thoughts on the Flying Monkeys (The Narcissist’s Tool for the Smear Campaign)
There was a great deal of beautiful qualities in my relationship with my ex…but she is not the flower. She is not the reason it was beautiful. She is not the blossom or the tree. Our life was beautiful and it bloomed because that was the season and we both contributed to the season..
Our life together blossomed because it was our choice. Now it’s time for a different choice.Read More Thoughts on Pema Chödrön’s Curious about Existence
Every time I hear one person tell another some variation of, “Staying in your partnership and trying to transform the conflict means you’re weak, a chump, abused, suffering from Stockholm syndrome, and your past history was just one big lie,” I think, “Wow! Who’s gaslighting who here?!”
Seriously?! How do you know?Read More 31: Drive by Shaming