Infidelity wasn’t even the real conflict in my marriage or my relationship with my X or in my life. As someone on the Facebook Esther Perel Discussion Group recently wrote, “The affair is not something you do, it’s a place you go.”Read More 08: This and That
Contrary to what people claim, not everyone wants their loved ones to grow, they simply want them to change.Read More 03: More of This and That
A bit of this thing and that.
People do what they know how to do until the emotional cost of change is less than the emotional cost of protecting the status quo. We all carry a load that was cast there through the fire of experience.Read More 42: This Thing and That One
Just as “…but I love you” isn’t a get out of jail free card following betrayal, “…but you cheated” isn’t either. In both cases it is a deflection from the things that matter.Read More 36: A Bit of This and That
I packed up everything and moved to Pittsburgh last week. I don’t see myself ever going back. I don’t want to be here but none the less I am.
And that’s that…Read More 24: And that’s that
For nearly a year I gave away my Power and self-respect to Silence. I know what needs to be done.
Maybe I always knew but lacked the willingness to face it.Read More 23: More of This and Lots of That
119: And so it goes
“How often we murder parts of ourselves by not letting things advance or come close. How often we let fear rule our emotional lives. How often we kill or chase away everything that moves.” – @MarkNepoRead More 119: And so it goes
117: This and That
C brings the same depth of passion to hate you and resent you as she brought to love you and care for you. You did this to her heart. She didn’t do this to you…but today you both are choosing which wolf to feed.Read More 117: This and That
The only time we care about motives is when our behaviors don’t reflect other people’s expectations. We judge the actions of others but ask to be judged for our motives.Read More 08: Sidebar: Language matters
There is no honor in being a mistress for a woman where honor matters; where the Girl Code is actually a code.Read More 03: Labels are for things, not people