116:Thoughts on He Wants Forgiveness by Walking the Journey

116: He wants forgiveness by Walking the Journey

I see more clearly what I need to offer C and be less concerned about what I think or feel I need from her. By doing this I’m taking a risk, facing uncertainty, & being emotionally open.

112: Thoughts on What am I doing? by Walking the Journey

112: @Dawn_ByTheCreek asks, “What am I doing?”

I’ve asked myself that question thousands of times a day over the years of my betrayal. I’ve asked myself that questions a thousand times a day since the reveal.

100: Thoughts on Breathe by Songwriter Anna Nalick

100: Breathe

Two AM and I’m still awake, writing a song
If I get it all down on paper, its no longer
Inside of me, threatening the life it belongs to

99: Thoughts on the Lies Your Anxiety Constantly Tells You About Yourself

Lies Your Anxiety Constantly Tells You About Yourself

I absolutely understand this now. I really had no idea how this drives so much of my negative self talk. I’m actively working on it.

86: Thoughts on Does Non-Monogamy Make You a Cheater? by Not Your Average Girl

86: This Won’t Be Popular

Whose responsibility is it to ensure I kept my commitments? Am I a child that needs to be watched over by a group of women to ensure I keep my dick in my pants?

Absolutely not.

84: Exist In The Moment (One more thought)

This is the only path to rediscovering my self-respect and power. It is the only path to transform myself and my life.

More vulnerability, not less, is the only path to my heart.

83: Thoughts on A Short Guide on How To Cope With An Unfaithful Lover

83: A Short Guide on How To Cope With An Unfaithful Lover

I thought this was an excellent read with many sound perspectives. Perspectives that grow in importance over time.

A few things I would add though.

81:Thoughts on Ripping up the old contract by A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction

“I’ve rightfully felt anger, rage, hurt, trauma, disrespect, tricked and disgust because he fucked other women – plain and simple – and him fucking other women was NOT in my plan.”

65.4: 7 Days: Taking Responsibility

7 Days: Take Responsibility

What does taking responsibility for infidelities, secret-keeping, and lies mean to you?

65.3: 8 Days: Thoughts on How More Secrets and Lies Destroy Relationships by Darlene Lancer

This article is without a doubt, the most accurate, and thorough description of my thinking, actions, feelings, and perception of self I have found about the consequences, pain, and anxiety of being tied down by secrets and lies.