Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence.
I thought this was an excellent read with many sound perspectives. Perspectives that grow in importance over time.
A few things I would add that apply to both the betrayed and the betrayer:
- Hiding behind lies and secret-keeping will warp your perception of self. Rely on experienced, well-meaning, and knowledgeable people to help you see your blind spots.
- Be patience. Be persistent.
- If the relationship is important, keep it simple and give it time.
- Know hurt people hurt people. Betrayal or not, you will hurt people you are closest too. Don’t make it personal.
- People will want to insert themselves into the story. Ignore them as much as possible. The only feelings and thoughts that matter are yours and your Partners – and a trained professional. Everyone else is an interloper. Don’t allow trolls to define your relationship, intentions, or choices.
- Time does not heal all wounds. What you do with the time will. Determine to heal and grow with intention. Intention gives time meaning and purpose.
- More vulnerability, not less, is the path to a healed heart.
- You owe your Partner honesty. Honesty about your actions. Honesty about your pain.
- Love them and stay. Love them and leave. There are a 1,000 possible choices in-between. Every situation is different. But most importantly love yourself.
- A betrayal results from a failure to be vulnerable. Betrayal doesn’t make you a failure. Failure leads to greater success.
- You matter. What you need and want matters. You are important. Do not take responsibility for your partner’s choices.
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