"Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience, that shall explain and overlook the old." – Ralph Waldo Emerson
There are two ways to feel the wind: climb into the open and be still or keep moving.
Mark Nepo
The Book of Awakening
You moved me.
I’ve struggled with finding the right words to describe my behavior.
At times I’ve used morally bankrupt, monstrous, criminal, selfish, immature and Ugly. Some are my words, some are grafted onto me by other broken people that haven’t dealt with their own betrayals or their own humanity.
On more than one occasion I’ve claimed I made a choice and a mistake. Those answers seem incomplete too.
While reading Dr. Caroline Madden’s book, After A Good Man Cheats, and working with Dr. Deb Goldberg, I’ve realized the most succinct & direct answer is, “I made a series of short-sighted and immature decisions requiring more ugly, selfish, short-sighted, immature and heartless decision about how to hide.”
This answer is honest, truthful, & mature. This answer is complete without being over-revealing, grandiose, self-shaming, or self-deprecating (or self-defecating) and usually leads to a more mature discussion of what happens next.
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