49: A Review: Day 22 – Guessing
Guessing creates drama. Guessing will screw with people’s heads. Don’t make people guess what you want and need.
Read More 49: A Review: Day 22 – GuessingAuthor: Wanders
#Infidelity is an outcome of an unskillful coping mechanism, everything else is a story someone imagines. Sharing thoughts and letters with those the men and women that #betrayed their Loves, lives, and selves too. What you do today matters most. All anyone can do is own the experience and practice doing better.
48: Thoughts on Adulting 101 – The other side by Walking the Journey
I really enjoyed this story of friendship, love, and forgiveness from my Twitter friend Walking the Journey. I especially like this paragraph about seeing her husband facing the shame of his infidelity.
It’s important to embrace the other side.
Read More 48: Thoughts on Adulting 101 – The other side by Walking the Journey47: Broken Knights and other fishy tales
“You either die a hero or live long enough to become a villain.” – Harvey Dent
It’s ironic when I was lying and secret-keeping my infidelity was slowly killing me and when the truth came out it destroyed my life. Now that I’ve embraced being secret free and open people want me to shut up and keep secrets.
Read More 47: Broken Knights and other fishy tales47: Broken Knights and other fishy tales
“You either die a hero or live long enough to become a villain.” – Harvey Dent
It’s ironic when I was lying and secret-keeping my infidelity was slowly killing me and when the truth came out it destroyed my life. Now that I’ve embraced being secret free and open people want me to shut up and keep secrets.
Read More 47: Broken Knights and other fishy tales46: This is the power of shame
The criminalization of infidelity encourages more secret keeping. Criminalization behavior won’t stop infidelities from happening but it does reinforce shame forcing more hiding, trickle truth, and secret keeping.
Read More 46: This is the power of shame44: Jealousy
I awoke from a nightmare at 4 am. C was dating again. Dancing with another man. Laughing at me. Mocking me. Flashing the smile I love towards another man. Ignoring me but still watching me.
I woke up jealous. Tearful. Heartbroken.
Read More 44: Jealousy44: Jealousy
I awoke from a nightmare at 4 am. C was dating again. Dancing with another man. Laughing at me. Mocking me. Flashing the smile I love towards another man. Ignoring me but still watching me.
I woke up jealous. Tearful. Heartbroken.
Read More 44: Jealousy43: Thoughts on the Diagnosis De Jour: Narcissism by Dolly Allen
“True pathological narcissism has always been rare and remains so: It affects an estimated 1 percent of the population, and that prevalence hasn’t changed demonstrably since clinicians started measuring it.” – Psychology Today
Read More 43: Thoughts on the Diagnosis De Jour: Narcissism by Dolly Allen42: Reset
Since this began I’ve made two commitments to myself. First of all, no more secrets. Secondly, I’d respect C’s personal space. This past weekend I broke the latter commitment and as a result created a secret.
Read More 42: Reset41: Projecting Pain
I followed her to learn but you cannot learn from the perpetually righteous and angry.
Read More 41: Projecting Pain
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