I wrote this story regarding shame 30 days before the reveal of my secret keeping, lies, betrayal, and infidelity. The sexual part of my betrayal was over for nearly 12 months at this point.
People saying adulters don’t care unless they are caught are wrong. We care. We don’t know how to make it right for the people we love. Pride says we have to do it alone.
The criminalization of infidelity encourages more secret keeping. Criminalization behavior won’t stop infidelities from happening but it does reinforce shame encouraging more hiding, trickle truth, and secret keeping.