Anger reminds me that when someone feels entitled to slam a door (or phone) to end a conversation, I am not obligated to open the door again for them. In this relationship, anger reminds me that surviving and flourishing means their silence and entitlement need not manipulate me.
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06: Distancers and the Silent Treatment (Part 1)
As I recently was reminded, we sometimes have to re-experience the pattern to know we’re outgrowing it…
46: Stories of Safety
Nothing I do or say will create a sense of safety for people avoiding their own traumas. I cannot love someone enough to heal the wounds they are trying to avoid.
45: Pursuers and Distancers
There are moments I’m often confused and bored by the stability in my relationship with Chef. I mean, if I’m not responsible for constantly attending to her ego and entitlement while driving connection, what am I suppose to do with all my free time?
48: Fall in Love
Try this again shall we?