I’m looking to answer the central question Dr. Madden asks in her book, After A Good Man Cheats, “Do u really want ur relationship back, or r u simply panicking & doing the things u think u r supposed to do?”Read More 143: Silence – Day 34
I realize now my anger and defensiveness were about armoring my heart. I cannot get to where I want to go when weighed down by my anger’s armor.Read More 140: Parable of the Prickly Porcupine
I’ve spent much time and energy focused on my Ugly and working through my pain and loss. As such, I’ve stopped examining what was beautiful and good. It has created a myopic and unbalanced perspective on Our lives.Read More 136: Forgotten
I’ll keep working on changing the things I can and accepting the things I can’t. You can hurt me but you cannot break me. Only the rigid shatter. As always, I keep my heart soft towards you. Not simply because I love you, but because I love myself enough to know this is best for me.Read More 135: More Patterns
Targets are stuck between a rock and a hard place, right where the Narcissist wants them to be, damned if they defend themselves and damned if they don’t BUT basically isolated and defenseless.
After Narcissistic AbuseRead More 128.03: Mostly Last Thoughts on Interlopers and Rumormongers
127: Monkeys in the Middle
I’ve gone to lengths not to put people in the middle of my situation. I don’t want anyone else to carry my water.Read More 127: Monkeys in the Middle
125: Once a cheater…
“So often we want to take this behavior and now reduce the entire person to just that.” – Esther PerelRead More 125: Thoughts on Once a cheater from Ester Perel…
123: The Onus of Healing by A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction
I need – no I WANT, someone that will work through the hard and Ugly things and not run away because they are scared or angry or shallow.Read More 123: Thoughts on The Onus of Healing by A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction
I miss you. Woke up dreaming of you again.
Eight months today.Read More 122: FFS
120: Thoughts on Perfection inspired by Not Your Average Girl
“There is no such thing as perfect. We are all a moveable feast, we are all growing and learning throughout our lives. Nothing ever stays the same.”Read More 120: Thoughts on Perfection inspired by Not Your Average Girl