101.3: Unringing the Bell (3 of 5) – The Human Beings
I’ve talked about C and K in fairly abstract terms. I need to take some time and clarify details on those relationships as I see them.
I want you to see them as people too.
Read More 101.3: Unringing the Bell (Part 3 of 5)
101.2: Unringing the Bell (Part 2 of 5) – Let’s Be Clear
We cannot talk about this if we don’t talk about this.
Read More 101.2: Unringing the Bell (Part 2 of 5)
101: Unringing the Bell (1 of 5) – No excuse
There is not a way back after the first act. I cannot unring the bell no matter how many lies I tell or secrets I keep about my betrayal.
And I had many of both.
Read More 101.1: Unringing the Bell (Part 1 of 5)
82: The Elephant
This morning at 8:00 am CST I am facing my fears, anxieties, and humiliations. Anxiety wants me to hide so I’ve decided to do the opposite. I’m going to treat Anxiety like the bully it is: I’m going to punch it in the nose.
Read More 82: The Elephant
2 Days: It’s all Hertz
The justification and rationalization for hating C are always easy to find. The brain is a rationalizing, justifying, negative thought manufacturing machine broadcasting thoughts at 50 hertz.
Read More 65.9: 2 Days: Magic Brain Hertz
Other Peoples Problems — A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction.
Worth reposting because I find perspectives like this few and far between.
Read More 61: Other Peoples Problems — A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction
Yesterday morning I woke up to find a comment by the troll Warren about me on a friend’s blog.
What happened next was both fascinating, amazing, and a bit terrifying.
Dolly is definitely the Queen.
Read More 59: Thoughts on Thanks for Stopping by: A Letter to an Interloper by Dolly Allen
I’ve made a lot mistakes since discovery day, 126 days ago. I may not be doing it perfectly but I’ve been doing it.
Read More 55: 22 Days – A quick summary of my failures
Three lessons on infidelity: 1.) I’m not a victim 2.) Secrets Suck 3.) Friendship and Ghost Stories
Read More 28: 70 Days, 3 Lessons
Sure there are monsters, but in truth, most of what we are calling monster behavior is simply someone doing something stupid for stupid and innocent reasons. It’s just poor judgment, not pathological.
There are actually very few monsters.
Read More 15: Narcissists and other ghost stories