127: Monkeys in the Middle

I’ve gone to lengths not to put people in the middle of my situation. I don’t want anyone else to carry my water.

126: Grrr…

The pain will never go away. I will only find perspective for the pain. It is a part of me now. To hate the pain is to hate myself; to love myself is to love my pain.

125: Thoughts on Once a cheater from Ester Perel…

125: Once a cheater…

“So often we want to take this behavior and now reduce the entire person to just that.” – Esther Perel

123: Thoughts on The Onus of Healing by A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction

123: The Onus of Healing by A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction

I need – no I WANT, someone that will work through the hard and Ugly things and not run away because they are scared or angry or shallow.

121: Thoughts on Trickle Truth HELL by Walking the Journey

121: Trickle Truth HELL by Walking the Journey

The truth will not set you free. What you do with the truth will.

118: Thoughts on Forgiveness and Clemency

I realize, like so much, I have been approaching this wrong: I’ve been seeking forgiveness from C, that is selfish. Is it any wonder C is still pissed?

118: Thoughts on Forgiveness and Clemency

I realize, like so much, I have been approaching this wrong: I’ve been seeking forgiveness from C, that is selfish. Is it any wonder C is still pissed?

109: Blah. Blah. Blah.

“Trying to affair-proof your relationship is a fool’s errand. You will be far happier if you focus on affair proofing yourself and keeping your expectations on your partner realistically human.”

108: Never Not Broken

The weight of all of these losses and feelings finally broke me this week. I feel nothing but sadness, loneliness, despair, and emptiness today.

I have nothing to offer anyone. Not even myself. I’m hollow now.

106: The Mighty

“Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.”

I often wonder what keeps relationships going when, on the surface, it seems like there is so much going against them.