Every time I hear one person tell another some variation of, “Staying in your partnership and trying to transform the conflict means you’re weak, a chump, abused, suffering from Stockholm syndrome, and your past history was just one big lie,” I think, “Wow! Who’s gaslighting who here?!”
Seriously?! How do you know?
Read More 31: Drive by Shaming
I miss her. Sometimes I would just sit in the living room and watch her paint. I know she has been struggling with creating. I hope this is the start of her uncorking her creative bottle.
Read More 141: It’s not about me
118: Thoughts on Forgiveness and Clemency
I realize, like so much, I have been approaching this wrong: I’ve been seeking forgiveness from C, that is selfish. Is it any wonder C is still pissed?
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109: Blah. Blah. Blah.
“Trying to affair-proof your relationship is a fool’s errand. You will be far happier if you focus on affair proofing yourself and keeping your expectations on your partner realistically human.”
Read More 109: Blah. Blah. Blah.
101.5: Unringing the Bell (5 of 5) – Epilogue
As my life with C fades to a distant and ringing echo I will move forward with intention. The lessons remain.
I’m excited about the possibilities.
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101: Unringing the Bell (1 of 5) – No excuse
There is not a way back after the first act. I cannot unring the bell no matter how many lies I tell or secrets I keep about my betrayal.
And I had many of both.
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I’m still not sure I have a real answer why I betrayed C. I’m not sure I will ever be able to provide a personally or socially satisfactory answer to the question.
Read More 60: Why
I recognize the struggle is not allowing others to define the bottom, or the solution, in terms of their own experiences. Everyone brings their own biases, prejudices, ignorance, and experience to other people’s pain.
Read More 17: Thoughts on Why Rock Bottom is a Powerful Place by Lisa Arends