32: Languages of Love

Love is not enough. Dr. Stan Tatkin Today I met a woman at the hospital that speaks seven languages. Her husband speaks one. She told me her verbal gymnastics irritates her husband when she mumbles under her breath in multiple languages. When emotionally charged, she will often weave English, French, Yiddish, German, and Russian into […]

28: Anger Management

Betraying my wife is not a mindful approach to anger. It reflected a lack of boundaries and a mistake in how I approach feelings I find difficult.

18: A Love Letter to Betrayers – Imagining Shame

Ghost stories are not based on the realities of my actions but simply imaginings of my intentions intended to slave me to the mast of someone else’s emotional shipwreck. Letting shame go will cut you from the mast and make you the captain of your own destiny.

21: Briefly This and That

A bit more of this and that.

20: 99 Problems

These feelings do not mean what I think they mean. Pain is not the enemy. These stories I imagine about how I feel are just opinions with embellishments.

18: Sex.

There are places I remain frozen in the past.

An outcome of my marriage and the last several relationships is I feel as if I am sexually wrecked. I feel frozen between desire and doubt, analysis and paralysis, ambition and silence

17: Picture This

No matter how I reacted, it wasn’t going to undo the consequences of the impact.

There are some things that cannot be fixed.

16: Growth and Change

“It hurts to grow alone,” writes C. JoyBell C. “It hurts to realise that someone else won’t be coming with you.” As a result, I now recognize growth is always a selfish act.

Always.

Lessons From a Black Friday: Year Three

Three years today it ended.

I’m really grateful it is over.

13: More Symbolism

And here I realized is where the story ended. In a little no frill community thrift store outside of Golden, Colorado. A few trinkets added to a hoarder’s paradise.