120: Thoughts on Perfection inspired by Not Your Average Girl

“There is no such thing as perfect. We are all a moveable feast, we are all growing and learning throughout our lives. Nothing ever stays the same.”

118: Thoughts on Forgiveness and Clemency

I realize, like so much, I have been approaching this wrong: I’ve been seeking forgiveness from C, that is selfish. Is it any wonder C is still pissed?

118: Thoughts on Forgiveness and Clemency

I realize, like so much, I have been approaching this wrong: I’ve been seeking forgiveness from C, that is selfish. Is it any wonder C is still pissed?

116:Thoughts on He Wants Forgiveness by Walking the Journey

116: He wants forgiveness by Walking the Journey

I see more clearly what I need to offer C and be less concerned about what I think or feel I need from her. By doing this I’m taking a risk, facing uncertainty, & being emotionally open.

113: Thoughts on All that we are not by Mark Nepo

113: All that we are not

You cannot be vulnerable and safe. Vulnerability is (risk + uncertainty + emotional openness). By definition, safety is to be free of risk and uncertainty. They just cannot exist in the same spiritual space.

112: Thoughts on What am I doing? by Walking the Journey

112: @Dawn_ByTheCreek asks, “What am I doing?”

I’ve asked myself that question thousands of times a day over the years of my betrayal. I’ve asked myself that questions a thousand times a day since the reveal.

104: Thoughts on the Toxic Soup of Lying

104: Toxic Soup

One of the opinions I hear repeatedly and casually tossed about by non-betrayers is if betrayers aren’t happy they should just leave.

This is of course, moralistically ideal, ethically rigid, and practical nonsense.

100: Thoughts on Breathe by Songwriter Anna Nalick

100: Breathe

Two AM and I’m still awake, writing a song
If I get it all down on paper, its no longer
Inside of me, threatening the life it belongs to

99: Thoughts on the Lies Your Anxiety Constantly Tells You About Yourself

Lies Your Anxiety Constantly Tells You About Yourself

I absolutely understand this now. I really had no idea how this drives so much of my negative self talk. I’m actively working on it.

86: Thoughts on Does Non-Monogamy Make You a Cheater? by Not Your Average Girl

86: This Won’t Be Popular

Whose responsibility is it to ensure I kept my commitments? Am I a child that needs to be watched over by a group of women to ensure I keep my dick in my pants?

Absolutely not.