17: A Love Letter to Betrayers – Self Harm

“It’s important that we don’t stereotype—pain does not discriminate and people of all ages and backgrounds can be at risk for self-harm.”

07: Portrait of Infidelity

06: Promises and Prisons

I have no desire to be another’s jailer. I have no interest in being another’s prisoner.

05: Hidden Lessons

On Friday I helped a friend cater an event at a local brewery. For reasons I am still sussing out when we arrived I had a full blown anxiety attack. The first serious and debilitating one I’ve had in a very long, long time. I couldn’t focus. I couldn’t remember what people ordered. I couldn’t […]

02: Own Your Shame

The cynical and bitter will call it image management.

Everyone else will call it adulting.

02: Own Your Shame

The cynical and bitter will call it image management.

Everyone else will call it adulting.

16: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – How Did I Get Here?

During Week 2 of Affair Recovery’s Hope for Healing’s seventeen week program the participants are asked to answer the question, “How did I get here?” and read it to the small group.

Below is my response.

01: The Unforced Errors – Thoughts on Affair Recovery

Thoughts on Affair Recovery’s “The 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse.”

64: Reminder2Self – Vengeance

I was reminded again today that the consequences of my betrayal, secret keeping, and escalating series of lies casts a long shadow.

14: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Intent vs Impact

By deferring to my intentions I am essentially saying, “Yes I hear you hurt, but you shouldn’t hurt because that wasn’t my intention.” It carries the same intentions when someone say, “If you really cared you wouldn’t have cheated.”