It is impossible for people that never walked in our shoes to know what is true about our behaviors, why we did what we did, or what it means. I barely understand and others certainly never will.Read More 05: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Labels and Abuse
What I know now after nearly two years of counseling is no one deserves anything. We are not entitled to happiness, comfort, safety, or even the truth or honesty. We are owed nothing. The only right we have with other people is to leave. We choose to stay, we choose to leave, but it is still our choice.Read More 44: Passing Judgement
The Good Doctor asked me today if I still love you?Read More 43: Do I Love You?
A bit of this thing and that.
People do what they know how to do until the emotional cost of change is less than the emotional cost of protecting the status quo. We all carry a load that was cast there through the fire of experience.Read More 42: This Thing and That One
Moving forward, “Are my choices and actions consistent with what I value or am I doing things simply because I are afraid of what will happen if I don’t?”
I need to know to move forward.Read More 04: A Love Letter to the Betrayer – The Three Questions
I know you hurt Pain is not wrong…The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain. Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha Good day my Friend. Depending where you are, it may not feel like a good […]Read More 03: A Love Letter to the Betrayer – I Know You Hurt
You are allowed to change relationships even if no one else understands. You are allowed to try again. You are allowed to walk away. You are not the same person you were yesterday. You are free to chose your life even if it is misunderstood.
Even if it appears to be a contradiction.Read More 02: A Love Letter to the Betrayer – Contradictions
Don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying there aren’t “narcissists in the world, just not as many as you would guess from the number diagnosed as narcissists by disappointed partners.”Read More Thoughts on the Flying Monkeys (The Narcissist’s Tool for the Smear Campaign)
Here is the truth, I have taken responsibility everyday for what is mine, but only for what is mine. I need to let others be responsible for what is theirs.Read More 41: An Apology to Indy
How quick we are to believe the worst about people we don’t actually know because we want to believe the best about the people we love.Read More Thoughts on Mark Nepo’s Being Sad