02: Own Your Shame

The cynical and bitter will call it image management.

Everyone else will call it adulting.

12: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Mostly Dead Cats

The meaningful question from my Good Doctor, and other good doctors, is “if you love/care for others why have you lied and kept secrets that has harmed and injured your Loves, lives, and self?”

54: Lessons from a Black Friday

Here are a few of the lessons learned since that dark, unhappy, and personally blackest of Black Fridays two years ago.

20: A Letter from the Good Doctor

I acted in ways involving plenty of shitheadery but it pales in comparison to the shit our imaginations make up to keep us locked in fear in an attempt to keep us safe.

Thoughts on Ghosting by Esther Perel

When I saw Esther Perel’s continuum summarizing a Relationship Accountability Spectrum, I was like, “Holy FUCK! Ghosting?! That is exactly what has happened over the last year! That is what she did! That is how I feel and behave! I’m not crazy or irrational!”

17: Broken Promises

My vow was simple: I’ll take any slings and arrows. I promise I’ll be there. We are partners and I’ll always share everything I have with you. I’ll protect you and keep you safe.

My vow came with a white horse and silver bullets for every problem.

13: I’m Proud of ©

You either own your fear and anger or your fear and anger own you. – Sean Kinney

I’m immensely proud of C. Not that it matters but I am going to explain anyway.

12: Today’s Court Hearing

I know his morning I will need to take the gloves off if I want to break the Pattern that brought me here. I will have to embrace the role of Villain if I want to be free.

And that scares me.

06: Pfaltzgraff and Why Love is Absurd

Love is absurd. I would know.

129: The 1959 Shasta Airflyte

“What does AA’s “principles before personalities” really mean? It means we practice honesty, humility, compassion, tolerance, and patience with everyone, whether we like them or not.”