Best of 2018’s Week 32

“And yet most of the couples that seek professional counseling after an affair survive infidelity. As difficult as the process maybe, many couples find their relationship is even stronger once they recommit and work to the experience.”

Dr. Caroline Madden

After a Good Man Cheats

I want you and a future with you C. You know me. I wish you hadn’t let K or the other Interlopers split Us so easily. I wish you had confronted me and not run. Maybe this is what you wanted all along. I don’t know. I would still listen and talk to you as you are someone I love. Because you are.

These are some of the personally significant messages, Tweets, pictures, memes, and miscellaneous posts from this past week.

We are here to live out loud.

– Emile Zola

Mark Nepo
The Book of Awakening
August 12

Early on, we know enough to cry and sound our way into the world; this is the primary purpose of voicing ourselves. Whatever comes out becomes a Lifeline, a vein of expression by which we affirmed, again and again, that we are vital, a quickening part of all the majesty and variety of Life.

But soon – perhaps in school, or at home, or when first venturing after a sense of love we somehow think is not within us – too soon, we start believing that we cry and sound in order to be heard. And everything else changes.

Then we become anxious to be received, to be accepted, and approved. But imagine if Birds only sang when heard. If musicians only played when approved of. If poets only spoke when understood.

There have been many times I’ve struggled through the expectation and disapproval of others to refind my voice and rejoice as a living piece of things. Certainly, there is a particular joy and nourishment in being heard. But I have come to realize that sounding my way into the world, to express who I am, must always come first. Since wanting to be thought well of never goes away, I always have to keep the reaction of others at bay long enough for my voice to make it the light…