Tag: optimism
Thoughts on Conflict Transformation: Moving Closer (Part 5)
If I love you too often I’m conflict avoidant. An uncomfortable pattern with family relationships and romantic relationships.
There are reasons for that right?
Read MoreThoughts on Conflict Transformation: Winners and Losers (Part 4)
Long before I have a conflict with others I have conflict within myself. Who wins? Who loses?
I create my own reality and therefore I’ve created the conflict.
Read MoreThoughts on Conflict Transformation: Lawyer Mode (Part 3)
I see in the situation of infidelity, there will never be agreement about my intentions, motivations, or reasonableness but Buck is challenging us to discover what we can “create together.” To focus on the solution and not “fall into countless volleys of ‘you said…I said’ back and forth.” This unskillful approach “usually increases tension and decreases connection.”
Read MoreThoughts on Conflict Transformation: Intentions, Not Excuses (Part 2)
Intentions don’t matter when u r bleeding out emotionally. There is no room for nuance when performing emotional triage on your identity and life.
Read MoreThoughts on Conflict Transformation: The Pattern (Part 1)
As I read and begun to have an understanding of Brown’s intentions, I started to recognize how foreign these concepts are to my life…and why.
Like pain, I have to learn how to make conflict my friend.
Read More149: Thoughts on They Cheat Because Their Souls Were Starving (Oh Brother) by SpaghettiSam
SpaghettiSam asks, “What has changed in this person so that the next time a crisis occurs or they aren’t feeling loved and special they don’t opt to go fuck another person?”
Good question.
Read More146: Thoughts on The Marriage of the Princess and the Dragon
I long for the chance to show C what is under the armor. I long for the chance to explore what C and I could create together…but that life is dead.
Read More140: Parable of the Prickly Porcupine
I realize now my anger and defensiveness were about armoring my heart. I cannot get to where I want to go when weighed down by my anger’s armor.
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