Love Letters to a Healing Heart
"Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience, that shall explain and overlook the old." – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Today I watched in real time as a ghost story grew. Someone on Twitter shared that, after 16 years, her husband announced to her today he is moving out. She was distraught and reached out online for support and encouragement. She was sent a few kind words and hearts but then the conversation turned on a simple three letter word: why.
Read More 38: Twitter's Ghost Stories“What is most healing about bearing witness to things exactly as they are, including my own part in my pain, is that when the voice of the pain fits the pain, there is no room for Distortion or Illusion. And this way, truth becomes a clean bandage that heals, keeping dirt out of the wound.” – Mark Nepo
Read More 36: Cleaning out the woundReading post after post about what happens post-discovery almost no one acts well. Everything in this situation is ugly. I made it uglier.
Read More 35.3: No More Mixed Messages: The Benefit of Hindsight (Part III)On a shallow level, I believe C is ending the relationship because of my infidelity and secrets. However, at my core? At my core, I believe C is ending the relationship because I am not worthy of being loved.
That is an emotionally messed up way of interacting with the people that love you.
Read More 35.1: No More Mixed Messages: I Love You, Go Away (Part I)“We do not see things as they are,” wrote Anaïs Nin, “we see them as we are.” And so it is when contemplating and discussing my infidelity and betrayal with those closest to me.
Read More 34: You Asked, I'll Try to AnswerI want you to be happy and successful. I want you to find the Partner you deserve, need and want. If you can’t talk to me like you love me, would you try to talk about me like I’m someone you loved once and loved you?
Read More 30: A Novel IdeaMy heart breaks over and over and over. I’m an idiot. A self-sabotaging, unforgiven fool. The cold, hard, and brutal reality is, at this point, I am chasing a rainbow.
Read More 24: Chasing RainbowsThis is the gift of infidelity: it makes you stare into the mirror and see all the truths about yourself. Some are ugly. Some are bad. Some are good. All of them are important.
Read More 23: Getting PerspectiveHow can I hope for her forgiveness when I cannot forgive myself?
Read More 22: BrokenOriginally posted on Lessons From the End of a Marriage:
Rock Bottom. A place that brings dread. That no one would choose to visit. And yet it is also a place of mysterious power. That allows us to tap into the power within ourselves. Because when you’re at Rock Bottom you have… Nothing to Lose…
Love Letters to a Healing Heart 
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