The narrative that has choked so many meaningful intimate moments in my life is the false narrative, "You deserve to be happy but if there is a conflict that must mean there is something wrong. Not with them, but with you."
Labeling someone a slut - or a narcissist, predator, or whore - isn't rape, but the emotional intentions are the same. It's about taking someone's Power.
123: The Onus of Healing by A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction
I need - no I WANT, someone that will work through the hard and Ugly things and not run away because they are scared or angry or shallow.
119: And so it goes
"How often we murder parts of ourselves by not letting things advance or come close. How often we let fear rule our emotional lives. How often we kill or chase away everything that moves." - @MarkNepo