Sure there are monsters, but in truth, most of what we are calling monster behavior is simply someone doing something stupid for stupid and innocent reasons. It's just poor judgment, not pathological. There are actually very few monsters.
Other Peoples Problems — A Couples Journey of Recovery from Sex Addiction.
Worth reposting because I find perspectives like this few and far between.
"True pathological narcissism has always been rare and remains so: It affects an estimated 1 percent of the population, and that prevalence hasn't changed demonstrably since clinicians started measuring it." - Psychology Today