It would be great if I could simply not do it again. If the wounds, trauma, pain, and anxiety hiding behind infidelity would simply go away. Disappear as if they never existed or as if they belonged to someone else.
By deferring to my intentions I am essentially saying, "Yes I hear you hurt, but you shouldn't hurt because that wasn't my intention." It carries the same intentions when someone say, "If you really cared you wouldn't have cheated."
Sure there are monsters, but in truth, most of what we are calling monster behavior is simply someone doing something stupid for stupid and innocent reasons. It's just poor judgment, not pathological. There are actually very few monsters.