Ghost stories are not based on the realities of my actions but simply imaginings of my intentions intended to slave me to the mast of someone else's emotional shipwreck. Letting shame go will cut you from the mast and make you the captain of your own destiny.
These feelings do not mean what I think they mean. Pain is not the enemy. These stories I imagine about how I feel are just opinions with embellishments.
"It hurts to grow alone," writes C. JoyBell C. "It hurts to realise that someone else won't be coming with you." As a result, I now recognize growth is always a selfish act. Always.