10: Little Boys and Girls

And I wrestle with myself for repeatedly giving you the benefit of the doubt because in the quietest of quiet I know this is your pattern and you aren’t going to change. And in the stillest of still moments I find I still care about you and your suffering.

09: Not Every Day

“Anger gets a vote.” – @TaraBrach

Thoughts on The Cost of Feigning Intimacy

In truth, I didn’t value myself either, and as such I acted accordingly. Like Reese Piper, “I didn’t realize what it would cost me” to try to be everything for others leaving little for myself.

08: This and That

Infidelity wasn’t even the real conflict in my marriage or my relationship with my X or in my life. As someone on the Facebook Esther Perel Discussion Group recently wrote, “The affair is not something you do, it’s a place you go.”

17: A Love Letter to Betrayers – Self Harm

“It’s important that we don’t stereotype—pain does not discriminate and people of all ages and backgrounds can be at risk for self-harm.”

07: Portrait of Infidelity

06: Promises and Prisons

I have no desire to be another’s jailer. I have no interest in being another’s prisoner.

05: Hidden Lessons

On Friday I helped a friend cater an event at a local brewery. For reasons I am still sussing out when we arrived I had a full blown anxiety attack. The first serious and debilitating one I’ve had in a very long, long time. I couldn’t focus. I couldn’t remember what people ordered. I couldn’t […]