This is my pattern. I am committed to breaking the pattern.Read More 46: The Silent Treatment
We are what we embrace. If we embrace the problem than we are the problem. If we embrace the solution we are the solution. If I embrace shame do I not become my shame?Read More Thoughts on Pema Chödrön’s Non-Aggression and the 4 Maras
I made mistakes. I’m learning. I’m growing. I’ll keep doing better but as I heal, examine myself in the mirror, and let people back into my life I hope this is what I can find within and bring back to the table as a more emotionally complete man.
Perhaps this is the letter I should have written to myself.Read More 45: A Love Letter to ©
Pain isn’t the enemy. Suicide isn’t the answer.Read More 06: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Suicide
One of the accusations leveled at men and women post discovery of #infidelity is the intentions to change, remorse, shame is all manufactured after the fact. That wasn’t my experience. I rediscovered a post about shame I wrote to © a month before discovery.Read More The Things I Carry – The Preamble to Failure
The body reacts to sexual arousal and the flu in similar ways. As such, if I don’t stop long enough to greet my emotional and physical sensations with curiosity, I will get fucked twice.Read More Thoughts on Anita Pavlovic’s Exist in the Moment
It is impossible for people that never walked in our shoes to know what is true about our behaviors, why we did what we did, or what it means. I barely understand and others certainly never will.Read More 05: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Labels and Abuse
What I know now after nearly two years of counseling is no one deserves anything. We are not entitled to happiness, comfort, safety, or even the truth or honesty. We are owed nothing. The only right we have with other people is to leave. We choose to stay, we choose to leave, but it is still our choice.Read More 44: Passing Judgement
The Good Doctor asked me today if I still love you?Read More 43: Do I Love You?
A bit of this thing and that.
People do what they know how to do until the emotional cost of change is less than the emotional cost of protecting the status quo. We all carry a load that was cast there through the fire of experience.Read More 42: This Thing and That One