Regardless of how you experience the intention and impact of infidelity, we all are manipulated by the stories, expectations, promises, ideals, traumas, and fears we bring to the experience. We are the fictional Everyman seeking to protect the imagined safety of the stories, even as the stories eat up our lives.
Painter is unsafe and dangerous for me because I struggle to see her for what she does. I sometimes forget how skillful -- and willing -- she is at getting other people to carry her water.
"Accountability doesn't mean punishment. Accountability is a willingness to accept responsibility for our own actions."
Contrary to what people claim, not everyone wants their loved ones to grow, they simply want them to change.