14: Thoughts on the Pros and Cons of a Disappearing Act by Lisa Arends

Originally posted on Lessons From the End of a Marriage:
Being abandoned sucks. The shock alone is enough to stop your heart. And then, once it starts beating again, all you want to to is yell at your so-called partner who thought it was acceptable to simply walk away with no notice and no dialog. It…

10: The Team Sport

We color both the innocuous actions and the intent of the betrayal in hyperbolic terms, covered in dashes of the conspiratory and the menacing. Every action must have hidden ill-will. Every act must be a reflection of a deeper darkness.

09: The Hot Mess Club

Stop thinking you deserve to be hurt by her. Stop seeking out the abuse and pain.

09: The Hot Mess Club

Stop thinking you deserve to be hurt by her. Stop seeking out the abuse and pain.

08: Sidebar: Language matters

The only time we care about motives is when our behaviors don’t reflect other people’s expectations. We judge the actions of others but ask to be judged for our motives.

06: Infidelity’s Paradox

Eventually our pain will fade & our life together will become simply a footnote in our hearts.

04: For future reference

03: Labels are for things, not people

There is no honor in being a mistress for a woman where honor matters; where the Girl Code is actually a code.

02: Hope

When summer is a faded memory and the hope for spring is shaded by the short and dreary days of winter, I love the scent and colors of the Franklin Park Conservatory. It is a reminder that with patience all things grow and even the hardiest need time to gather their strengths in order to […]