50: Stories of Blame

Painter sat at the defendants table and announced with absolute certainty, “This is all your fault.”

And I wonder, “Which part is my fault?”

15: Reminder2self: Accountability

“Accountability doesn’t mean punishment. Accountability is a willingness to accept responsibility for our own actions.”

01: The Unforced Errors – Thoughts on Affair Recovery

Thoughts on Affair Recovery’s “The 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse.”

Thoughts on Mark Nepo’s Being Sad

How quick we are to believe the worst about people we don’t actually know because we want to believe the best about the people we love.

Thoughts on Mark Nepo’s Being Sad

How quick we are to believe the worst about people we don’t actually know because we want to believe the best about the people we love.

01: A Love Letter to the Betrayers

It seems I’m compelled to write to the men and women that betrayed their Loves, lives, and selves directly.

36: A Bit of This and That

Just as “…but I love you” isn’t a get out of jail free card following betrayal, “…but you cheated” isn’t either. In both cases it is a deflection from the things that matter.

32: Eeyore Visits Mordor

There is nothing simple that I have chosen to do. I think it is human to believe change is for the other person even when we know the solution lies within.

Thoughts on Excuse Making vs Understanding by Lisa Arends

I have, on more than one occasion over the last 15 months found myself voluntarily leaning into pointless discussions with ill-informed people over issues of my identity, my life with my xp, and the decisions I was making before and after the discovery.