Tag: mark nepo

Thoughts on Conflict Transformation: Intentions, Not Excuses (Part 2)

Wanders

Intentions don’t matter when u r bleeding out emotionally. There is no room for nuance when performing emotional triage on your identity and life.

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25: Of Apples and Badassery

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There was little room to learn how to express feelings, needs, and wants in a way that is vulnerable when it is met with derision, contempt, competing interests, and sarcasm. So I don’t think I was afraid of vulnerability as much as having a definition that equated it with weakness resulting in abuse.

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Thoughts on Mark Nepo and the Snappening

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Today, I am feeling the entire weight of my xp’s snappening.

As Mark Nepo writes below, “rejection and opposition are painful, but being treated as if you don’t exist is quietly devastating.”

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Thoughts on The Puppy in the Pound by Mark Nepo

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“What good if only your obedience and good manners are accepted and the rest of your passion and personality must be kept in hiding?” asks Mark Nepo

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10: Vulnerability

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What a horrible expectation I place on another person, making them responsible for my safety. When they fail, and across a lifetime they will fail, I punish them for my expectations.

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Best of 2018’s Week 44

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Although I dream about C every day, I can’t go back, she’s gone away. It knocked me down but that’s okay. I’ve got this life to fix. I threw it all out in a ditch. Broken down when I was sick, now I gotta build it back up brick by brick.

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Best of 2018’s Week 43

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From where I stand the primary issues in our relationship wasn’t codependency, enabling, echosim or some clickbait pathology. Those attitudes and approach to communication may have retarded the growth of our relationship and vulnerability but they were never the drivers for me. I still strongly hold to the view that the primary conflicts in our relationship were an issue of communication, not compatibility, motivations, or intentions. Lack of vulnerable communication created a decision-making patchwork defined by guesswork.

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Update on Thoughts on Those Who’ve Fallen Through by Mark Nepo

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I’m actually in a better place now than I was before Monday’s physical and emotional collapse. I’m in a better place because I’m leaning into the pain. 

I know who I am.

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