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16: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – How Did I Get Here?

During Week 2 of Affair Recovery’s Hope for Healing’s seventeen week program the participants are asked to answer the question, “How did I get here?” and read it to the small group.

Below is my response.

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01: The Unforced Errors – Thoughts on Affair Recovery

Thoughts on Affair Recovery’s “The 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse.”

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14: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Intent vs Impact

By deferring to my intentions I am essentially saying, “Yes I hear you hurt, but you shouldn’t hurt because that wasn’t my intention.” It carries the same intentions when someone say, “If you really cared you wouldn’t have cheated.”

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14: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Intent vs Impact

By deferring to my intentions I am essentially saying, “Yes I hear you hurt, but you shouldn’t hurt because that wasn’t my intention.” It carries the same intentions when someone say, “If you really cared you wouldn’t have cheated.”

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13: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Safety

Feelings are data, not directives.

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62: Sacred to the Touch

I will just set this here for you: whether you know it or it or not, you are valuable, you are worthy. Even when you fail. Even when I fail.

Remember.

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12: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Mostly Dead Cats

The meaningful question from my Good Doctor, and other good doctors, is “if you love/care for others why have you lied and kept secrets that has harmed and injured your Loves, lives, and self?”

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12: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Mostly Dead Cats

The meaningful question from my Good Doctor, and other good doctors, is “if you love/care for others why have you lied and kept secrets that has harmed and injured your Loves, lives, and self?”

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59: The Queen is Dead

I don’t really have much to add at the moment. Frankly, what I experienced at the train depot was eye opening and has left me disgusted with myself and others.

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