27: Wayne’s World

Now I live in the new moment, each just as fragile and impermanent.

18: A Love Letter to Betrayers – Imagining Shame

Ghost stories are not based on the realities of my actions but simply imaginings of my intentions intended to slave me to the mast of someone else’s emotional shipwreck. Letting shame go will cut you from the mast and make you the captain of your own destiny.

15: Reminder2self: Accountability

“Accountability doesn’t mean punishment. Accountability is a willingness to accept responsibility for our own actions.”

Lessons From a Black Friday: Year Three

Three years today it ended.

I’m really grateful it is over.

Thoughts on The Cost of Feigning Intimacy

In truth, I didn’t value myself either, and as such I acted accordingly. Like Reese Piper, “I didn’t realize what it would cost me” to try to be everything for others leaving little for myself.

08: This and That

Infidelity wasn’t even the real conflict in my marriage or my relationship with my X or in my life. As someone on the Facebook Esther Perel Discussion Group recently wrote, “The affair is not something you do, it’s a place you go.”

07: Portrait of Infidelity

04: Regrets

No matter how beautiful, the cut flower eventually wilts.

03: More of This and That

Contrary to what people claim, not everyone wants their loved ones to grow, they simply want them to change.

16: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – How Did I Get Here?

During Week 2 of Affair Recovery’s Hope for Healing’s seventeen week program the participants are asked to answer the question, “How did I get here?” and read it to the small group.

Below is my response.