How we got here doesn't have to define where we go. Living that truth is all that is required to break the patterns.
There was little room to learn how to express feelings, needs, and wants in a way that is vulnerable when it is met with derision, contempt, competing interests, and sarcasm. So I don't think I was afraid of vulnerability as much as having a definition that equated it with weakness resulting in abuse.
101.3: Unringing the Bell (3 of 5) - The Human Beings
I've talked about C and K in fairly abstract terms. I need to take some time and clarify details on those relationships as I see them.
I want you to see them as people too.
101.2: Unringing the Bell (Part 2 of 5) - Let's Be Clear
We cannot talk about this if we don't talk about this.
I use to believe some things were best kept private...but it is precisely the act of secret keeping that allowed my betrayal to fester so long. When the lies, secrets, and betrayal detonated on our lives twenty-eight days ago I was both sickened and relieved. The secret had been weighing down my soul and my... Continue Reading →