When I saw Esther Perel’s continuum summarizing a Relationship Accountability Spectrum, I was like, “Holy FUCK! Ghosting?! That is exactly what has happened over the last year! That is what she did! That is how I feel and behave! I’m not crazy or irrational!”Read More Thoughts on Ghosting by Esther Perel
My vow was simple: I’ll take any slings and arrows. I promise I’ll be there. We are partners and I’ll always share everything I have with you. I’ll protect you and keep you safe.
My vow came with a white horse and silver bullets for every problem.Read More 17: Broken Promises
If you knew someone’s Partner was cheating, would you tell the man or woman that is being betrayed? What would you do?Read More Thoughts on “I know what I would do” by Walking the Journey
The moment I awoke to the reality that © doesn’t care about me, our life, or our future, I am free. I am free to go dancing. I am free to walk into any place and order a beer. Free to ask a friend that loves me, accepts my Ugly, and hasn’t run, to dance with me.Read More 153.03: The Pattern (Part 3)
SpaghettiSam asks, “What has changed in this person so that the next time a crisis occurs or they aren’t feeling loved and special they don’t opt to go fuck another person?”
Good question.Read More 149: Thoughts on They Cheat Because Their Souls Were Starving (Oh Brother) by SpaghettiSam
I’ve spent much time and energy focused on my Ugly and working through my pain and loss. As such, I’ve stopped examining what was beautiful and good. It has created a myopic and unbalanced perspective on Our lives.Read More 136: Forgotten
Targets are stuck between a rock and a hard place, right where the Narcissist wants them to be, damned if they defend themselves and damned if they don’t BUT basically isolated and defenseless.
After Narcissistic AbuseRead More 128.03: Mostly Last Thoughts on Interlopers and Rumormongers
128.02: More thoughts on Interlopers and Rumormongers
First, there is no ‘you and C’, she systematically killed that. Based on her actions, if you were still together her anger and rage would be relentless.Read More 128.02: More thoughts on Interlopers and Rumormongers
The pain will never go away. I will only find perspective for the pain. It is a part of me now. To hate the pain is to hate myself; to love myself is to love my pain.Read More 126: Grrr…
125: Once a cheater…
“So often we want to take this behavior and now reduce the entire person to just that.” – Esther PerelRead More 125: Thoughts on Once a cheater from Ester Perel…