06: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Suicide
Pain isn’t the enemy. Suicide isn’t the answer.
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05: A Love Letter to the Betrayers – Labels and Abuse
It is impossible for people that never walked in our shoes to know what is true about our behaviors, why we did what we did, or what it means. I barely understand and others certainly never will.
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03: A Love Letter to the Betrayer – I Know You Hurt
I know you hurt Pain is not wrong…The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain. Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha Good day my Friend. Depending where you are, it may not feel like a good
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Thoughts on the Flying Monkeys (The Narcissist’s Tool for the Smear Campaign)
Don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying there aren’t “narcissists in the world, just not as many as you would guess from the number diagnosed as narcissists by disappointed partners.”
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Thoughts on the Flying Monkeys (The Narcissist’s Tool for the Smear Campaign)
Don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying there aren’t “narcissists in the world, just not as many as you would guess from the number diagnosed as narcissists by disappointed partners.”
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36: A Bit of This and That
Just as “…but I love you” isn’t a get out of jail free card following betrayal, “…but you cheated” isn’t either. In both cases it is a deflection from the things that matter.
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Thoughts on Pema Chödrön’s Curious about Existence
There was a great deal of beautiful qualities in my relationship with my ex…but she is not the flower. She is not the reason it was beautiful. She is not the blossom or the tree. Our life was beautiful and it bloomed because that was the season and we both contributed to the season..
Our life together blossomed because it was our choice. Now it’s time for a different choice.
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32: Eeyore Visits Mordor
There is nothing simple that I have chosen to do. I think it is human to believe change is for the other person even when we know the solution lies within.
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Thoughts on the Next Step to Health by Mark Nepo
The truly loving action is to listen and then tell them, ‘No.’ Changing something simply to make someone else feel better is the path to my lost integrity and shattering of my character.
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31: Drive by Shaming
Every time I hear one person tell another some variation of, “Staying in your partnership and trying to transform the conflict means you’re weak, a chump, abused, suffering from Stockholm syndrome, and your past history was just one big lie,” I think, “Wow! Who’s gaslighting who here?!”
Seriously?! How do you know?
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