Nothing I do or say will create a sense of safety for people avoiding their own traumas. I cannot love someone enough to heal the wounds they are trying to avoid.
46: Stories of Safety
25: Of Apples and Badassery
There was little room to learn how to express feelings, needs, and wants in a way that is vulnerable when it is met with derision, contempt, competing interests, and sarcasm. So I don't think I was afraid of vulnerability as much as having a definition that equated it with weakness resulting in abuse.
113: Thoughts on All that we are not by Mark Nepo
113: All that we are not
You cannot be vulnerable and safe. Vulnerability is (risk + uncertainty + emotional openness). By definition, safety is to be free of risk and uncertainty. They just cannot exist in the same spiritual space.
111: The Utmost Purest Intentions
111: The Utmost Purest Intentions
I've made 132 posts since December 22 on my journal. Today I made 42 of them private placing them in archives.
01: Ducks and other quacks
The pain needs perspective, else it becomes a cycle of self-abuse and destruction. Perspective is born from time and distance. With help, time and distance provide pain meaning.
Recent Comments