There is nothing simple that I have chosen to do. I think it is human to believe change is for the other person even when we know the solution lies within.
Every time I hear one person tell another some variation of, "Staying in your partnership and trying to transform the conflict means you're weak, a chump, abused, suffering from Stockholm syndrome, and your past history was just one big lie," I think, "Wow! Who's gaslighting who here?!" Seriously?! How do you know?