I need to stop letting my guilt limit my choices and actions. I need to stop seeing C’s acts of jealousy, anger, and revenge as simply a consequence of my infidelity but a choice she is making about how to punish me because of her feelings of jealousy, anger, revenge, and pain.
forgiveness
09: The Hot Mess Club
Stop thinking you deserve to be hurt by her. Stop seeking out the abuse and pain.
08: Sidebar: Language matters
The only time we care about motives is when our behaviors don’t reflect other people’s expectations. We judge the actions of others but ask to be judged for our motives.